I am someone who physically internalizes my emotions to a large degree. This means that oftentimes, my body just hurts, and I am desperate to find relief. I have tried a few things to remedy the big muscle knots in my back: yoga, meditation, and (when I can afford it) massages. By far, in my experience massages do the best job at alleviating my pain. But because they can be pricey, getting a massage can be the ultimate act of self care [1]. Personally, I often ask for a massage gift certificate instead of material objects for the holidays, and seek out deals in my city at less established spas in order to subsidize my need for massages.
TMassages can be great, but they can also be unpleasant if you are not prepared for the experience. Because they are an expensive indulgence and a treat, it can be a real bummer to not have it go as you had hoped. Here are some of the things I wish I knew before getting my first massage. And if you are preparing for your first massage, lay back, enjoy, and have a great time!
Not All Massages Are the Same, So Do Your Research
There are dozens of different types of massages, all designed to aid your body in different ways. (Here is a good guide to a few of the most common types of massage [3].) In general, each type of massage employs different techniques to help alleviate pain in a targeted area of the body. That can mean the use of hot stones, an emphasis on stretching, or the use of aromatherapy, for example. If you are considering getting a massage, it is worth considering which type will work best for what you are dealing with and want to accomplish through the massage.
If You Have a Gender Preference For Your Masseuse, Let it Be Known When You're Booking
There are both male and female masseuses. While masseuses of all genders are totally professional, you may be more comfortable one way or another. Be aware of this, and if you have a specific preference, state it while making the booking and avoid any unpleasant surprises.
Go to the Bathroom Beforehand
There's nothing worse than needing to pee during a massage! You want to be able to fully relax, and that won't happen if you need to go to the bathroom. So, take the time to use the bathroom before your massage starts, and thank me later.
Communicate With Your Masseuse
At the end of the day, the whole point of getting a massage is to enjoy it. Don't be shy to speak up if at any point you don't like something that is being done, want a change in pressure, feel uncomfortable, would like special attention on a problem area, or anything else that may come up during your massage. A masseuse is there to help you, and will be happy to hear from you (it will make their job easier!)
Sometimes, Massages Can Hurt
Massages aren't always 100 percent relaxation. If you are especially sore and going for an intense style of massage (like deep tissue or a sports massage), the massage can hurt at times. But be aware that there are two different kinds of hurt in massages; the kind that hurts because its actually getting into the tight knots and sore muscles, which will actually feel great a few hours or days down the line, and then the kind of hurt that is due to a bad masseuse. Be in-tune with your body and speak up.
Be Aware of Your Preferences When it Comes to Oils and Lotions
More likely than not, your massage will involve oils or lotion of some kind. This allows the masseuse to glide over your skin with less friction. If you have sensitivities to scent or sensitive skin, be sure to communicate before hand to ensure that whatever product is being used is good for you. Or, bring along some CBD oils [4] if thats your thing. And if you really like certain scents, consider an aromatherapy massage!
Don't Worry About Your Hair and Know it May Get Dirty
Massages can often include the neck and scalp areas. Because oils or lotions are often used, this means the same product being used on your body may also get in your hair. Don't worry about it! Scalp massages are divine and its a great addition to any massage experience. That being said, don't plan on getting your hair blown out right before if you want it to be immaculate post-massage.
You Will Likely Be Oily Afterward, So Bring Some Cosy Clothes (and Fresh Undies!)
A massage should be a comfortable experience at all its stages, so make sure to wear or bring some comfortable clothes and a fresh pair of underpants that you don't mind getting residual oil or lotion on to change into once the massage is over.