"Maybe I Was the First Person Ever to Be in This Family Who Ever Had a Depression"

Princess Diana famously took a tell-all interview opportunity with BBC journalist Martin Bashir in 1995 [14]. (Some argue Bashir used deception in order to land the interview in the first place, and though there will be no criminal investigation of the journalist [15], there's still an independent inquiry in the works [16].) In this 1995 interview, Diana spoke about bulimia, self-harm, and postpartum depression.

Diana revealed that after she gave birth to her eldest, Prince William [17], she had postpartum depression that was never discussed. "You'd wake up in the morning feeling you didn't want to get out of bed [18], you felt misunderstood, and just very, very low in yourself," she said, according to an online transcript from BBC. This was a first for her — she stated that she never had this sort of depression before, noting how overwhelming a change in roles became for her (she married in 1981, stepped into her position at the palace, and gave birth to her son in '82).

When asked how the royal family reacted to her postnatal depression, Diana said, "Well maybe I was the first person ever to be in this family who ever had a depression or was ever openly tearful. And obviously that was daunting because if you've never seen it before how do you support it?" She added that people stuck a "wonderful new label" on her for their benefit, calling her "unstable."

It was then, that Diana began to self-harm. "When no one listens to you, or you feel no one's listening to you, all sorts of things start to happen," she explained. "For instance, you have so much pain inside yourself that you try and hurt yourself on the outside because you want help, but it's the wrong help you're asking for." She added, "But I was actually crying out because I wanted to get better in order to go forward and continue my duty and my role as wife, mother, Princess of Wales. So yes, I did inflict upon myself. I didn't like myself. I was ashamed because I couldn't cope with the pressures."

When asked if she thought the British people were happy with her, Diana responded that she thought they needed someone to support them, someone who understood. "Yes, I've had difficulties, as everybody has witnessed over the years, but let's now use the knowledge I've gathered to help other people in distress," she stated. And when asked, again, if she thought she could help people who are suffering, Diana boldly replied, "I know I can, I know I can."

Bulimia "Was a Symptom of What Was Going on in My Marriage"

Diana said she felt the need to "perform" through it all. (This sounds similar to the anecdote that Meghan Markle [19] shared in her interview with Oprah where she pushed herself to attend an event in 2019 [20], but when the theatre lights went down, she'd couldn't hold back tears.)

Diana also spoke about the years that she had bulimia [21], calling it a "secret disease." She continued, "You inflict it upon yourself because your self-esteem is at a low ebb, and you don't think you're worthy or valuable," adding that it gave her temporary comfort before feeling "disgusted." She referred to it as a destructive pattern.

Bulimia, she said, "was a symptom of what was going on in my marriage." She and Prince Charles wanted to "keep everything together" despite the fact that it was very publicly coming to an end, and this pattern, for her, was an escape mechanism. She stated that people, again, used her eating disorder as a way to paint her as unstable.

Eating Disorders "Turn the Nourishment of the Body into a Painful Attack" on the Self

In 1993, Diana spoke at a conference about eating disorders in general and discussed the role that societal pressure plays in them. "I have it, on very good authority, that the quest for perfection our society demands [22] can leave the individual gasping for breath at every turn. This pressure inevitably extends into the way we look," she began. She said that eating disorders, like anorexia [23] and bulimia, "show how an individual can turn the nourishment of the body into a painful attack on themselves."

Though she did not speak on her own experiences with an eating disorder, Diana mentioned conversations and observations she'd made while visiting with people who were being treated for them. She called on the audience to listen to youth especially.

"All of us can help prevent the seeds of this disease developing. As parents, teachers, family, and friends, we have an obligation to care for our children . . . in ways which clearly show our children that we value them," Diana said. "They, in their turn, will then learn how to value themselves."

These were, reportedly, her first public comments on eating disorders [24].

"Women Have a Right to Their Own Peace of Mind"

Princess Diana acted as patron for the health and social care services nonprofit Turning Point [25]. At a conference run by the nonprofit in June of 1993, Diana spoke about women's mental health and how hard it is to be seen as the caretakers of society when we can't take care of ourselves. She spoke, too, about this belief engrained in us that admitting that we need help takes "enormous courage [26]."

Diana discusses how managing depression alone can exacerbate the darkness; it's lonely. She also speaks about the fact that tranquillisers and sleeping pills were historically overprescribed to women. [27] "These pills, these 'mother's little helpers [28],' have left a legacy of millions of women locked into a terrible torment, doomed to a life of dependence from which there is still very little help to escape."

Diana continued, "Isn't it normal not to be able to cope all the time? Isn't it normal for women as well as men to feel frustrated with life? Isn't it normal to feel angry and want to change a situation that is hurting?" she challenged. "Perhaps we need to look more closely at the cause of the illness rather than attempt to suppress it. To accept that putting a lid on powerful feelings and emotions cannot be a healthy option."

Toward the end of her speech, Diana stated of women: "If they feel they must sacrifice everything for their loved ones even at the cost of their health, their inner-strength, and their own self-worth, they will live only in the shadow of others and their mental health will surely follow." It's important, she said, that women are heard, and "women have a right to their own peace of mind."

If you or a loved one are experiencing suicidal ideation or are at risk, the NHS has an Urgent Mental Health Helpline [29] and Samaritans [30] has several resources and a 24/7 lifeline at 116 123.

If you are feeling anxious or depressed and need help finding help or resources, the Samaritins [31] (116 123) and SANE [32] (1-800-950-6264) have resources available.

If you or someone you know is struggling with disordered eating or an eating disorder, Beat [33] has resources available including a helpline at 0808 801 0677 [34] as well as an one-to-one web chat service.