4 Reasons Your Home Is Giving You Anxiety — and How to Fix Them

If you put off doing the laundry until someone runs out of clean underpants, can't get a grip on the overflowing pile of post in the entryway, or delay paying the bills until the last second, then odds are your design is making these unpleasant chores even harder to accomplish. It may sound crazy to say that interior design can impact your ability to get unpleasant household tasks done, but Jessica says it absolutely can.

"Design your space in a way that makes those mundane activities more efficient. Getting things done easier and quicker is definitely a way to make them more enjoyable." And when you're able to do something easily and right away, you're more likely to do it.

The Solution:

So how can you go about doing this? Jessica says the first step is to pay attention to your normal home habits and routines. Once you recognise what they are, you can arrange your home around how you naturally do things rather than trying to change your habits to fit some impractical organisation plan you'll never stick to, even if that impractical plan is Pinterest-level pretty. "Trying to change an ingrained habit hardly ever works!"

The next step is to examine the reasons you hate a certain activity, and then find easy ways to address those reasons. "For example, do you hate doing laundry because the utility room feels dark? Invest in more lighting sources or a skylight to brighten up the space," Jessica explained. "Maybe you're simply bored when folding clothes. The answer could be as simple as adding a small TV or purchasing an iPad stand to watch Homes Under the Hammer. Having a better attitude not only makes these tasks more fun, it does wonders for your attitude, which affects the energy in your whole home!"

There's no rule that you have to use each room as it was designated on the architect's blueprints, yet too often we don't think to do anything different. Jessica says this is a big mistake.

The Solution

"Think outside of the box and break the rules when it comes to how you use rooms! If you don't throw fancy dinner parties (like me), then why have a dining room?" Jessica questioned. Every room in your home is valuable real estate, and you should be using it to help you fulfill your life's intention. Jessica elaborates, if you want to have more quality time with your teen, get him or her to spend more time at home with you by turning the dining room into a teen-friendly lounge. Or if you're passionate about art, repurpose part or all of the formal dining room you rarely use into an art studio.

The space-use possibilities are endless, so Jessica recommends taking some time to determine what your emotional needs are and then evaluate how you can use your space to best serve them.

If you've designed a home to what you thought would be perfection but it's still not quite right, it could be because you built it for the person you want to be rather than who you actually are. "Sometimes we can let a fake fantasy version of ourselves take over."

Jessica gives herself as an example: She loved the image of herself as Martha Stewart throwing elaborate five-course dinner parties in a formal dining room. However, she explained, "when I search my heart and get really honest with myself, that image feels empty because it's not really coming from my life's intention to be a good friend. It's coming more from my superficial desire to be someone else's version of fabulous."

Even if Jessica designed the formal dining room of her dreams, she probably wouldn't invite anyone over because she doesn't actually want to cook a huge meal and create ornate tablescapes. "Instead of being a source of joy, that formal dining room would just be a constant reminder that I'm not Martha Stewart."

The Solution:

You can avoid this by reflecting on what Jessica describes as "the truest version of yourself and not just the lofty, idealised version." She explained, "I always remind my clients and students that we must have discernment when expressing our emotional needs, because sometimes we can let a fake fantasy version of ourselves take over. We must be 100 percent authentic and honest with ourselves so our homes can reflect our truest selves. Otherwise, we'll create homes that do more harm than good."

One way to get in touch with this truest self is to journal. Jessica recommends a stream of consciousness in which you ask yourself the following questions: What do I want and crave in life? Who do I want to be? How do I want to give to the people in my life? How do I show love to the people in my life? How do I want to feel in a space and why? What do I wish I had more of? When you're done, highlight what resonates with you.