Getting to spend your life [1] with one person is one of the luckiest things imaginable [2]. When my husband and I were planning our wedding many years ago, I got asked a lot of questions. While everyone wanted to know about the colour scheme and wedding venue, the one thing I got asked a surprising amount was, "How did you know he was 'the one'?" The answer, of course, can be pretty long-winded and personal. Even though we might love many people in our lifetime, there might be one person [3] who excites you and you want to be with for the rest of your life. Finding "the one" is special. Consider these traits of a relationship that can let you know you have found that one person who will make you smile until you're old and grey.
- They make you laugh every day.
- You want to spend time [4] with them even when you're not feeling your best.
- Doing mundane activities like going to the store is made better by having them with you.
- You think about them throughout the day.
- You both take care of each other's needs.
- You are sexually happy with them and find them attractive.
- Even if you aren't in your dream job now, they support what it takes to get there.
- Children have been discussed, and you share a similar vision of how many, if any [5], you want.
- All of the parents (or important friends and family members) have met.
- There aren't any secrets being kept.
- Money [6] and spending habits are discussed and respected.
- The thought of growing old with them doesn't scare you.
- Their friends and your friends have merged into one group.
- They know how you take your drink.
- Even when you're snot-nosed and sick, they still want to take care of you.
- Fights are minimal, and when they occur, they're productive.
- There are numerous inside jokes that only you two would understand the humour to.
- The idea of planning a wedding [7] with them sounds like fun.
- You can be your real self around them, farts and all.
- Together you can sit back and enjoy silence, knowing that you don't need words to have a good time.
- You've told them things that no one else in the world knows.
- They don't judge you when you have unconventional thoughts.
- Some nights you stay up late just to talk in bed.
- You can't imagine a future without them.
- In fact, you can't believe you've lived this long without them.
- Neither of you is particularly jealous about previous relationships because nothing could compare to yours.
- You are not annoyed by their quirks; instead, you find them endearing.
- Your relationship is built on trust and a mutual appreciation for each other.
- Difficult moments, like job loss and deaths in the family, are made more tolerable because they know just what you need to feel better.
- You like the same movies and music, at least enough to be entertained together.
- They don't let you get away with things.
- They challenge you to be the best version of yourself.
- You've talked about the future and are on the same page.
- You love your person unconditionally, even when they're being a bit of a stinker.
- Drama does not exist between you two.
- All the love songs [8] in the world make sense now because you two have found each other.