When it comes to receiving oral sex, you're probably thinking foreplay: the real sex is yet to come. However, don't be mistaken. Oral sex can be just as hot and sensual as intercourse, and if done well, it can totally lead to an orgasm. Luckily, there are a few sex positions guaranteed to help you reach that "O" early on so you can then continue your winning streak and get multiple orgasms during the main event. Here are the top positions to try during oral sex for more pleasure and access.
Use a Pillow and Spread Wide
The easiest and a classic go-to is to lie on your back with your legs spread wide and have your partner kneeling or laying on their stomach in front of you. "To make this more enjoyable and orgasm easier to reach, elevate your hips on a small pillow. This gives your partner fuller access to your entire vulva and lets them see what they are doing — no fumbling in the dark," Dr. Holly Richmond, PhD, a licensed marriage and family therapist and AASECT-certified sex therapist, told POPSUGAR. "From this position, you can also adjust your hips so your partner is hitting exactly the right place on your clitoris or labia," she added. Remember, not every woman comes from clitoral stimulation, so don't miss an opportunity to be attentive to alternative erogenous zones, too.
Sit on Their Face
Face-sitting puts you firmly — or not so firmly — in charge of the experience. "Have your partner lay on their back while you straddle their head, lowering yourself down on to their mouth or tongue to the degree it feels most comfortable and at a pace that doesn't feel too rushed," Richmond said. You can take breaks if you start feeling hypersensitive (especially on your clitoris), and then go for it again when you are ready to orgasm.
Doggy style for oral has enormous potential for creating some major orgasms. "Not only will your partner have a great view and be able to take verbal cues easily from you, but you can also move forward and back in the rhythm and pressure that feels best," said Richmond. "Bonus — anilingus gets top billing with this position. Don't forget the butt! There are thousands of nerve endings just below the vulva that deserve attention and can lead to multiple orgasms," she said.
Hug Your Knees and Make a Ball
"My clients report that this position is a go-to if they want to ensure they'll have an oral orgasm. It's a take on the traditional lying on your back with your partner between your legs, but instead of having your legs spread open, pull them together and bring your knees into your chest so you're in a small ball shape," said Richmond. This enables your partner to create a lot of suction on your clitoris or fully take your vulva in their mouth. You can gently rock back and forth to find exactly the right angle to get you to your O, she added.
Standing oral requires some skill on your part, as well as your partner's, but it can be hugely rewarding. "First of all, it's very sexy to look down on your partner and have them look up at you, making intimate eye contact or verbalising how you want them to make you feel good. There's no room to be shy here — it's about you taking control of your pleasure," Richmond said. Many women find this "power position" incredibly erotic, she added, which leads to an amazing orgasm. "And your partner has room to move around and use their hands and fingers while you can utilise gravity to help find the right amount of pressure and resistance," she explains.
It's a classic, but it allows both partners to receive pleasure. "For simultaneous oral sex, I encourage couples to lay on a bed facing one another using pillows to prop up arms and legs that need to be open for access. The goal is to readjust as much as needed to find maximum comfort," Jenni Skyler, PhD, LMF, CST, AASECT-certified sex therapist, sexologist, and licensed marriage and family therapist for Adam & Eve, told POPSUGAR. Maximum comfort allows for maximum surrender, and surrender is what orgasm is all about.
If none of these positions do it for you, then switch around to find the best fit. "Every person is different. Some people may want to trade in comfort for erotic excitement," said Skyler. "For example, a woman may want to sit on a kitchen countertop with her legs in the air to receive oral sex. Though her butt and legs might get a little tired, the taboo eroticism of this may be just what the doctor ordered for that ideal orgasm," she said. Do what works for you!