5 Crucial Things You Should Know About Your Partner Before Getting Married

"If you aren't on the same page [about kids], you will likely break up due to this as this is a definite deal breaker," says Millionaire Matchmaker's Patti Stanger. "This sometimes gets shoved under the rug as people don't ask the right questions, then are shocked to find out their partners don't have the same position as them."

"If you've already had this discussion, make sure you also know how many children your partner wants and what their ideal timeline looks like," she adds. "Sometimes you figure these things out along the way, but having consistent and open conversations is key."

"The number one cause of divorce is financially not agreeing on how money is handled," Stanger notes. "Whether they have good credit or not could block any home purchase. [Also], who pays for what? Don't assume if you're marrying a wealthy person [that] they will pay for it all."

Jason Eric Ross, a psychotherapist based in NYC and Florida, agrees with this one: "You want to know if your potential partner uses reasonable judgment, and you definitely want to know if they have any debt you may take on. Someone who is fiscally responsible will bring less baggage to the relationship, and thus there will be less arguing."

This may sound silly, but intimacy is the primary difference between a romantic relationship and a platonic one. Sex, snuggling, kissing, and general "touching" really matters. "You can't fully bond if you're not in physical contact," says psychologist Dr. Dara Bushman. "Before marriage, implement to hold hands for 20 seconds. Go to bed touching feet. Kiss for four seconds a day. Spell out 'kiss' with your lips touching. Hug your partner. Make a commitment to touch in some capacity every day."

Relationships go through Winters and Summers with all things, including physical intimacy. It's OK if libido ebbs and flows over the years, but being highly comfortable with each other physically is very important to lifelong bonding and happiness.

Everyone deals with tough spots, whether it's a major family issue, career-related upset, or health scare. What you need to know is how they work through a crisis. Stanger says it's not ideal if they avoid the problem, throw their hands up, or run in the other direction. This demonstrates an inability — or an unwillingness — to deal with their own emotions and to problem-solve. Perfection isn't necessary here. Nobody is perfect. It's that drive to remain positive and find resolve that matters most.

One sign that your partner can work through a crisis is if they're open to therapy. "Being willing to undergo counseling, to me, is a sign of maturity and willingness," says Ross. "I do believe people who seek therapy end up having better insight, which tends to lead to healthier relationships."

Another good barometer is to see what they're like during the holidays or while travelling, which can both be pretty stressful events. Again, nobody is perfect — and you shouldn't expect flawless superhero problem-solving — but how your partner handles difficult situations before marriage is how they'll likely handle them after. Make sure you're OK with their approach.