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Want Stronger, Longer Orgasms? Our Sex Experts Reveal How

26/03/2024 - 10:50 AM

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Orgasms [2] are wonderful, so it's natural to want more of them. And if not more, then stronger and more intense climaxes might be on your bucket list. But of course, sex is a journey and it isn't always about orgasming. It's about exploring your body and finding new pathways to pleasure [3].

Some orgasms are small, and some are large; some are intense, and some are milder releases, but in many ways, the variety [4] is the beauty of sex (coupled or solo). If you've been feeling like your Os are on the smaller side of the spectrum, and if you want to learn how to have a better orgasm [5], there are a few things you can do to get there.

All bodies are different though, and it's important to keep in mind that what helps one person might not help another. So, to help, POPSUGAR UK got the orgasm 101 from sex expert at SexToys.co.uk [6] and sexologist, Gigi Engle [7] and head of brand at Smile Makers [8], Samantha Marshall, to bring you the best tips for building up to a stronger orgasm — try out one tip or all of them, or just use them as inspiration to invent a new technique all on your own.

Below, here are the best tips on having stronger, more intense orgasms. Enjoy!

Edging to Get You Over The Edge

Edging [10] is the easiest way to have a stronger, more intense orgasm. It's what happens when you repeatedly halt sexual play right before experiencing an orgasm. Though this sounds like cruel and unusual punishment, growing your pleasure threshold will only make the final release that much more explosive.

Marshall tells us that when going solo, you could reach for a clitoral suction toy for edging. She says: "A clitoral suction toy is a completely different type of stimulation that many say gives them the most intense orgasms, what's special these vibes is the squeeze sensors which allow you to speed up the 'suction' sensation by just tightening your grip on the toy. Perfect for the edging technique!"

Engle says practising edging alone is easiest, but you can perfect it with a partner too. She says: "Use your fingers or a toy (take the Loving Joy 10 Function Clitoral Suction Vibrator [11] (£16) for example). Start with clitoral stimulation. You can use whichever technique you prefer. Try circling the clitoris for a few seconds or minutes before giving it direct stimulation. When you feel like you're close to orgasm, stop. Wait two or three minutes. Breathe deeply into your body. Then start the process again. Once you do, let yourself climax."

Keep It Going — Even After You Come

Since people with vulvas tend to have shorter refractory periods than those with penises, you may even find that you could experience another orgasm shortly after you already experienced one. Engle recommends keeping your climax going for multiple orgasms [12], even if your body feels sensitive. "Don't stop after your first orgasm. If you feel that one part of your body is getting overstimulated — try switching to another for the subsequent orgasm. Listen to your body and re-engage after each orgasm to maintain arousal," she explains.

Masturbate, Masturbate, Masturbate

Don't be shameful or awkward about your masturbation [13] technique or habits — touching yourself often can help enhance your orgasms. Engle echoes this, saying: "The better you get to know yourself through masturbation, the better you can communicate your desires and guide your partner to help you climax — and help yourself get there during solo sessions. The more you practise, the stronger your orgasms can become."

So, take some time to really enjoy yourself. Draw a bath, put on music that turns you on, and grab your favourite vibrator. Devote time to the practice, since masturbation is largely a practice of self-care.

Breathe Into Your Orgasm

Utilise all of those techniques you've heard of in yoga and Pilates classes, and breathe deeply and consciously during your entire sexual experience. It's easy to get excited and hold your breath, but avoid doing this in order to find a stronger, more intense orgasm. "Focus on your breath and your body during masturbation. Tune into your clitoris. When taking deep breaths, try to fill your vulva with that breath. Lean into the pleasure and focus on what you're feeling. You'll find that concentrating on your breath allows you to unlock pleasure," Engle tells us.

Try A New Sex Position …

One of the best ways to enhance your orgasms is to try a new sex position [14]. After all, your body can get used to the sensations that come from lying on your back or stomach consistently, so switching things up can be the spontaneous boost your orgasms need. Marshall says: "Some positions fit more to slow motion than others. Maybe you want to find a position where you can kiss each other, and look into each others eyes - or have your bodies entwined with gentle rocking motions. Positions like lotus, spooning or scissoring work really well!"

… Or A Sex Toy

A small vibrator [15] can make all the difference during sex — especially for people with clitorises. Try something "small and easy to manoeuver," Engle recommends, like SheSpot's Dip Vibrator [16] (£32) or, for playful, fluttering sensations, Je Joue's Amour Bullet Vibrator [17] (£50). If you want something more explosive, you can always opt for a rabbit-style vibrator, like the Bounding Bunny [18] (£28) or Je Joue's Hera Rabbit Vibrator [19] (£95) — which has seven, low-rumbling vibration patterns — for stimulation of both the clitoris and internal pleasure spots at the same time. (Hello, blended orgasm.)

Then, if you're ready to use toys with your partner, Marshall recommends The French Lover [20] (£50) "for longing out the experience together and encouraging you both to explore each other's body and find new erogenous spots," she tells us.


Lauren Gordon [21] is the editorial coordinator at POPSUGAR UK, where she creates lifestyle and identity content. Lauren has a degree in journalism from University of the Arts London and previously worked as a showbiz and TV reporter at The Mirror US. Lauren specialises in pop culture, hair and beauty, focusing on trends, sharing in-depth tutorials, and highlighting hidden gems in the beauty industry.


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