Spontaneity can be so fun or a total disaster. But even the disasters carry some hilarious stories (after the fact). Don't be afraid to get frisky in public spaces or venture to a sex club if everyone is comfortable with it. Maybe even break out some handcuffs, blindfolds, hot candle wax, or costumes. For so long I felt that I needed to play it safe to feel like I had some semblance of control over an experience that wasn't always safe for me. Once I let that fear go, my sex life drastically improved.