There's nothing wrong with taking some much needed "me" time for a solo session. In fact, masturbating is actually really good for you [1], as it's teeming with health and wellness perks! Plus, it obviously feels amazing, and as you come to learn more about your body and what gets you off, you're in for some mind-blowing orgasms. No matter how great your partner might be in bed, it's really nice to be alone with your own thoughts and hands, where you can control your own pleasure [2].
Yet, sometimes you run out of visuals or life's circumstances change. Perhaps you don't really want to think about your ex who crushed your heart into a million little pieces. Here are some fresh ideas from real women [3] who know how to get that "O" every time.
My Boyfriend Is a Sex God
"I've been dating someone for a month or so now and the relationship is going really well. I find him super sexy and good in bed and he does little things that really turn me on so when I am masturbating I just picture him doing them. Usually that's all I need."
— RA
My Guy Chews His Gum Real Sexy
"The guy I'm currently seeing likes to chew gum, a lot. Usually we get in the mood quickly and so he's still chewing gum while we have sex. Thought it'd be weird but it's actually incredibly hot. So I'll picture us having sex in some sort of position where I can see his face and he's chomping away but in a really bad ass sexy way."
— LB
Sex on the Kitchen Counter
"There was one time where I walked in in some sexy lingerie and he picked me up and threw me on the kitchen counter and we went at it there for a while. Sometimes I replay that in my mind. It was HOT."
— DP
My Guy's Best Bud
"I know it's bad and I love my boyfriend but I think about his best guy friend sometimes who has rock solid abs and this smile and just seems like he'd be amazing in bed. He's so manly and strong. Sometimes I imagine him approaching me and saying like 'God I need you but it's wrong,' and then it just feels right sort of thing."
— PH
A Penis
"I am bisexual and right now I am with a woman, whom I love and really like having sex with of course, but sometimes I just crave a penis (which she obviously can't give me). We've talked about strap-ons but when I'm by myself sometimes I think about past guys I've been with or just a stranger having sex with me with an actual penis and it feels so good."
— AL
Doing It With a Woman
"I am straight and like men, but I find women to be really sexy at times. Like their bodies and boobs and just like what it would be like in bed since it's more unknown to me. Sometimes I fantasise about meeting a woman who is really attractive and hits on me at a bar or something and then it gets really hot from there on."
— JA
Lots of Bondage
"I guess I have a bit of a dark side. Clearly wouldn't want some guy I'm with to hurt me, but the idea of being spanked and slightly choked and stuff gets me really turned on. And it makes it better that when some guy uses a whip in my mind I don't actually feel anything!"
— LE
Having Sex at the Office
"My office has glass doors and you can see everything. Sometimes I imagine having sex with a co-worker or someone in my office right out in the open when it's quiet or late at night. He'd just throw me on the table and rip my clothes off and say how we wanted me each day and it'd be amazingly hot."
— GM
Skinny Dipping
"My ex and I went on a trip and decided to go skinny dipping late at night. I don't want to think about him anymore so I replace his head with this new guy I am seeing and replay it in my head but with my current boyfriend. It's WAY better and gets me off every time."
— JD
A Hot Stranger From a Bar
"I love the idea of public sex and with a stranger so I have this thought that someone finds me at a bar and we lock eyes and go to the bathroom and as I am walking there he grabs me and throws me against a dark wall and just starts having sex with me. Rough and spontaneous."
— FR
His Abs
"Guy I am dating has an insane six pack, maybe like eight pack, I don't know, and these crazy arms that are big and muscular. Honestly, just visualising him standing straight up and having sex with me while I lay back on the bed staring up at him will do the trick when I'm masturbating."
— KS
He's Going Down on Me
"So let's be honest guys aren't always great at oral sex. Their tongues are soft and they need to be rougher, which is why it's better to use your hands with it anyway. When I masturbate I use a vibrator that's really intense so I imagine him going down on me really sexy but I am still feeling the vibrations and pretending that's his tongue in my mind."
— JR