Why Getting Your Heart Broken Is a Good Thing

1 You Have the Chance to Step Back and Self-Reflect

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Once the intense emotions begin to soften, there's no better time to reflect – on the relationship, on ourselves, on what went wrong, but also what went right. It's a wonderful time of self-discovery and typically when the lessons learned will be the most palpable. Science backs us up here. A study by researchers Ty Tashiro and Patrcia Frazier found that after a breakup, people report on average five areas of growth in regards to themselves and future relationships.

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2 It Can Strengthen Your Friendships

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I'm a perpetual optimist and therefore have experienced my fair share of romantic letdowns over the years. Every time I've had my heart ripped to shreds, my close group of girlfriends was always there with a bottle of wine and the most non-romantic movie or TV series they could find. Even as you grow older and eventually find the right partner, you'll never forget those moments with the people who picked you back up with an open ear and a spoonful of honesty when you needed it the most.

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3 And Your Relationship With Yourself

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When you were in a relationship, it was all about conquering life together as one unit, but now that it's over, you have the extraordinary gift of selfishness. You can focus entirely on your own goals and desires, and this is usually the time when you're the most inspired to take chances. You've always wanted to learn how to play the piano? Do it. Go on the trip your partner never wanted to take. Enroll in the yoga certification classes that would've taken you away on date night. Focus on yourself, and do all the things.

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4 You'll Emerge Stronger and More Resilient

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Getting over an intense heartbreak is like a badge of honour; you'll probably never completely forget the nights you cried or the visceral way your heart ached, but once you put your heart back together, there's an overwhelming feeling of triumph that emerges. You lived through something, and you are stronger for it.

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5 You Learn to Forgive

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It's OK to feel angry after a poignant breakup (just as long as you don't let it wash over you), but even the most intense of emotions will begin to melt over time. Eventually, you'll realise that forgiveness isn't about the other person as much as it is about you and your happiness. The ability to let go and forgive those who have wronged us is a wonderful gift, but it always takes getting hurt first.

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6 You Become More Empathetic

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It's called the universal experience. A broken heart is something that happens to almost all of us, regardless of age, background, location, etc. It's a humbling experience, but in the end, it makes us more sensitive and empathetic as partners, friends, and all-around humans.

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7 You Learn What You Really Need From Love

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As teenagers, many of us draft a list of all the traits our perfect partner will have. After a failed relationship, you'll learn the traits that are actually important to you in a mate, and you'll take a pencil to your childhood list (or throw it out the window completely). Broken hearts teach us not only who we are as partners, but also what we need (and deserve) from love.

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