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How to Give the Hottest Blowjobs, According to Sexperts

19/05/2022 - 10:50 AM

Whether you're giving a blowjob as foreplay [1] or the main act, oral sex [2] is a great way to intimately connect with your partner. And while it's important to take your partner's pleasure into consideration, it's just as important to make sure you're prioritizing your own pleasure. This means only giving your partner a blowjob if you want to give them one, choosing positions that are comfortable for you, and not being afraid to say "no" if you don't like the way something feels or how it is escalating.

Fortunately, there are a lot of ways to help your partner reach a delightfully intense orgasm [3] while also enjoying yourself. If you don't know where to start, you aren't alone. Trying to make sense of a whole ocean of blowjob tips can feel daunting and distinctly unsexy.

To make sure you can confidently please your partner [4] and yourself, POPSUGAR spoke with a few experts about how to give blowjobs that are supremely enjoyable for everyone involved. The most important thing to keep in mind? There's no one right way to do it. The easiest way to give good blowjobs is to stay in tune with each other by communicating, listening, and feeling your bodies react. Keep reading to get a full rundown on mind-blowing blowjob tips, and get ready for some serious compliments.

1. Tease Your Partner Before Diving In

You don't want to do too much too quickly, so think of teasing as foreplay for foreplay. "Beginning with the hottest move makes it difficult to build toward a crescendo and maintain the excitement and endurance needed to reach climax," Jess O'Reilly, PhD, resident sexologist for Astroglide [6], tells POPSUGAR. "First, rile [your partner] into a frenzy with a feather-light touch, teasing licks, wet kisses, shallow sucks, and heavy breathing."

Kristen Mark [7], PhD, sex and relationship researcher, educator, therapist, and contributing expert for the sexual wellness app Coral [8], echoes this: "Once [their] arousal is heightened, slowly take [them] into your mouth and use your hand to provide pressure on the shaft," she says.

And remember to watch out for those teeth. "For the first touch, keep in mind that the head or tip of the penis is extremely sensitive for most," Britney Blair [9], PsyD, cofounder and chief science officer of sexual wellness app Lover [10], explains. "Soft tongues and wet lips feel much better."

(Blair is board certified in sexual medicine.)

2. Enhance the Feeling of a Blowjob by Using Your Hands

While "oral sex" and "blowjob" make it sound like a mouth-focused activity, experts agree that your hands play a crucial role. "Your mouth and tongue provide wet and warmth, but your hands provide tightness and rhythm," Jill McDevitt [11], PhD, MEd, licensed sex therapist and resident sexologist for CalExotics [12], says. O'Reilly recommends using your fingers on the outside of your lips, squeezing them together as you suck. "Your jaw will get a break, and you'll create an extra-tight squeeze that will make [their] toes curl," she says. This is also a great alternative if you don't enjoy the taste or sensations of a blowjob.

Another option, she adds, is to "create a ring around the base of the penis or use two hands to create a tight band around the base and both testes." Mark says to make sure you don't ignore the shaft. "Think about your hand and your mouth as two tools working together, but separately, for ultimate pleasure," she says. "Create one sensation with your hands, like a gentle twisting on the shaft, and another with your mouth, like a more intense sucking motion on the glans of the penis."

3. Don't Be Afraid to Switch Up Your Blowjob Technique

There's no "right" way to give a blowjob. Everyone has different preferences and pleasure points [13], so feel free to be creative, depending on what is comfortable for you. "Most blowjobs involve placing the tongue against the underside of the penis as you suck," O'Reilly says. "But the underside of the tongue offers a soft, gentle texture worth exploring." She recommends alternating between shallow sucks with the underside of your tongue on the upper side of the penis and deeper swallows in the traditional way.

Blair suggests trying long licks up the shaft, gentle kisses with only your lips, or circling your tongue around the tip of the penis. "You could even stroke the shaft of the penis while licking the head or fondling the testicles," she explains. To really kick things up a notch, McDevitt recommends holding a small vibrator on your cheek or under your chin so your partner can feel the vibration during the blowjob.

4. Expand Your Reach by Involving the Testicles and the Perineum

Remember, the penis [14] doesn't have to be the only area involved in a blowjob. If you're comfortable, "using your mouth on the testicles and moving down to the perineum (the area between the testicles and the anus) is often just as pleasurable for many people as stimulating the penis," Blair says.

O'Reilly recommends using two fingers or a toy to press into the area. "Increase the pressure as [their] arousal intensifies, and stroke firmly back and forth (a tiny movement will do) in rhythm with your sucking," she says. While this area may be uncharted territory for you or your partner, it's worth exploring.

5. Have Fun With Your Blowjob Technique

The more you enjoy it, the more they'll enjoy it. "The best tip I can give you is learn to love it," Blair says. "People who enjoy going down on their lover seem to be the most skilled at delivering pleasure to their partners." That said, this kind of blowjob confidence doesn't always happen overnight. If you're feeling insecure, talk to your partner ahead of time about what they like and don't like and discuss what you're most comfortable with. After, find a comfortable position, take a deep breath, and enjoy the power of pleasing your partner with oral.

Additional reporting by Theresa Massony and Taylor Andrews


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