7 Tips For Dating Outside Your Culture

Dating practices vary by culture and have become increasingly flexible over the years, especially with the increased interest in dating apps — so be open! I recently moved to Spain, and here, I've found that people typically meet for coffee or wine, which then may lead to dinner. Dates become a bit more formal later on. In the US, I had become accustomed to dinner and a movie.

Some cultures don't place a strong emphasis on marriage and skew toward domestic partnerships, and some relationships develop well after a sexual connection, while others develop before or without one. If you or your partner come from a culture that's known for sexual prowess, a healthy and active sex life will provide additional opportunities to understand each other's desires, dislikes, boundaries, and expectations. Just remember to enjoy yourselves while you're figuring it out and be prepared to move on if your values and goals don't align.

Working through miscommunications is a strength in any relationship. Naturally, communication is easier if you share a common language. Certain words, expressions, and even the use of body language can get lost in translation. This may happen with sign language, as well. If either of you feel confused or offended about something, don't ignore it. Address the issue as soon as possible. The more patient and open minded you both are about clearing the air and understanding what went wrong, the better it'll be in the long run. Who knows, you may even find humour in certain cases once you sort things out. Ease the pressure on yourselves and have some fun!

Be flexible with your expectations while maintaining your standards. Do your research, observe, question, and learn from each other and those who are important to each of you. What expectations are you each willing to compromise on and what are your deal breakers? Are there cultural practices that you'll be expected to observe? How will this affect your lives if you add children to the mix? You don't have to rush these conversations, but the answers will help you make informed decisions regarding your lives together.

For some people, absence really does make the heart grow fonder, while for others, it may be out of sight, out of mind. If you're involved in a long-distance relationship, you'll each have to make a great effort to keep the spark alive. What that looks like is different for each couple. Be sure to check in with each other consistently, schedule time to connect, pay attention to each other's love languages, and get support from those closest to you. Even counseling may help. Think of fun ways to spice up your video calls, and exchange emails, letters, or gifts. Share what's going on in your life and how current events may be affecting you, and encourage your partner to do the same. It won't always be easy, but that could also be a good thing. Hard work equals growth.

Moving for love can be an exhilarating experience, but it could prove to be challenging if you relocate to a place for your partner that doesn't have the culture you're used to. Research your prospective home well, try to find a community that you can connect to once you're there, and hold onto your own identity through your beloved hobbies. People tend to be curious about newcomers and why someone has chosen to travel to or join their community. You'll have plenty to share from your culture, as well. Continue to grow independently as well as with your partner in your new home.