9 Tips For Having Successful First Dates on FaceTime

Take your time getting ready, listen to your pre-date playlist (if you don't have one, you can borrow mine), and do whatever you'd normally do to pump yourself up for a date. Consider doing something physical to get any jitters out. Dance around your room, stretch, or have a quick meditation and repeating a mantra like "I am enough" a few times.

If you arrive on-camera and your date has put in seemingly no effort and comments that you got "so ready," that's out of embarrassment. Brush it off like a fly. This person is a stranger and for all they know this is the level of effort you put into walking your dog or get the post. The important thing is that you feel your best and whether the date goes well or poorly, you walk away knowing you're still a catch.

For a first date, whether in-person or virtual, a good rule of thumb is to treat the conversation like you already know the person, and you're just jumping back into an already existing discussion. If the chemistry is there, over-planning can sometimes suck that dry, so give yourself permission to just see what happens. Conversation is much more fun when it emerges out of the situation, so ask about things you can see in the background, what your date had for lunch, or what the view from their window is like. If you must, think about a few things you'd like to know about this person and write down topics, not questions.

Much like a real-life date, the logistics of actually setting up the hangout should be the responsibility of whichever party suggested the date in the first place. Once you've received your link to the chat, your only job is to be on time, or maybe a minute late to make 'em sweat. Set yourself up for success by keeping other media like your phone and TV away and designating a spot for this to take place.

The first week into social distancing I forgot I'd agreed to a FaceTime date and he called while I was watching Tiger King and finishing up some laundry. Frantic, I answered before I paused the show, so the first thing my date heard was the Oklahoma drawl of a deranged zookeeper, and the first thing he saw were rolls of obsessively folded leggings and sports bras. Frazzled, I spent the majority of the date in long rambles trying to recover my cool and eventually, he said he'd better let me get back to my laundry; which I think is the least alluring way a date has ever ended in my life or maybe all of history.

Like any good date, your aim is to leave that person feeling like they can't wait to see you again (and you feeling like they did the same). To do this virtually, wrap things up after about 30 minutes or an hour at the very most. Even if it's going well, you don't owe that stranger your entire night, and ideally, it'd be nice to leave some unanswered questions for your next chat. No need to make an excuse, simply say you should probably scoot but you're already looking forward to hearing more about them next time. If it's not a match, a close-out like, "Thanks for setting this up" will do. You can always let them down gently if they follow up over text.