7 Ways to Raise a Compassionate Child

It's a favourite of toddlers and preschoolers, and it's one way kids learn empathy and compassion. After all, make-believe is all about taking on a role — and in doing so, your child has to imagine how that person (or animal or magical creature) acts, thinks, feels, and responds to others.

Show your child what caring behaviour looks like. Be kind and pleasant to everyone, from the store clerk to your partner. When you're driving, swallow that road rage with a couple of deep breaths and give fellow drivers the benefit of the doubt.

Teach "feeling words" and concepts by talking with your child about her own emotions and those of others: "How do you think Lila felt when she fell down? Did she cry?" or "What were you feeling when that boy took your truck? Why do you think he did that?"

Bring your child along when you donate old books or clothes, and explain what you're doing it. Let her help when you shovel a neighbour's snowy sidewalk, make soup for a friend who's sick, or drop off a present for a toy drive during holiday time.

When your child shares nicely with you or a sibling, or she responds sweetly to a request for help, praise and thank her (then watch her puff up with pride).

our-legged family members need attention, food, shelter, and love, but they can't ask for it with words — so learning how to understand them is a way for kids to practice caring and compassion. Even young toddlers can learn to stroke Fluffy gently or toss Fido a treat. As your child grows, she can take on more responsibility for your pet's care, such as filling food and water dishes.

When you notice your child acting with compassion toward someone else (finding his baby brother's binky or asking if a sick friend is feeling better), say so. It's nice to be noticed. Point out examples in storybooks and TV shows too.