5 Things I Learned When I Was Ready to Give Up on My Marriage
Marriage — especially one that's lasted almost a decade — is kind of like the world's slowest roller coaster. There are dramatic highs and lows and lots of occasionally bumpy, sometimes smooth, but mostly mundane ground to cover in between. This only becomes more true when you add kids to your family; they make the highs higher, the lows lower, and definitely stretch out the monotonous nature of the in-between times.
As much as I thought I knew that marriage was going to be a lot of work and contain some periods of serious strife, I never really accepted that my own marriage might hit a point so low that I would question whether it was worth even trying to dig ourselves out. But then, suddenly and devastatingly, there I was, wondering if giving up on my marriage might be my best option. I couldn't believe we'd gotten there — amazing communication and its tendency to nip big issues in the bud had always been a hallmark of our relationship — and not ever having been in such a bad place, I wasn't sure how or if we could recover.
Luckily, my husband's commitment to our marriage never wavered, and he was determined to rebuild our relationship and regain my faith in its potential to last a lifetime. This fact alone reminded me of why I fell in love with him in the first place. Through a lot of work, therapy, and soul searching, our roller coaster started moving upward again, and now, just a few months later, we're miraculously stronger than ever. Here are the five vital lessons that saved us.