Eliza Morrill, a mum who is just trying her best, recently shared a post on her Facebook page Momstrosity [1] that plenty of foster parents can relate to [2]. She candidly explained what exactly changes when comparing your first foster care visit to the years that follow, and we're totally losing it.

"First foster care visit:

- House is spotless

- Curled hair and business casual attire

- Casual tin of blueberry muffins on the stove

- Children are dressed and playing with age-appropriate STEM toys

After a few years:

- Cheerios and laundry everywhere

- Top knot of half-hair, half-grease, no makeup

- All my leggings are dirty (gasp!) so a weird, uneven pair of cutoff shorts will have to suffice

- We have an oven?

- One kid is trying to fit a giant plastic ball in their mouth (not possible), one is jumping out of a tree in the backyard, one is whining, and the other just spit up all over his PJs."

What can we say? Kids change everything!