"Let's face it. Some of our kids' traumas may seem pretty frivolous at times, especially if we're having a tough day or are in the middle of a trauma of our own," says Deborah Godfrey, certified Parent Educator. "Children lack the perspective that allows us to see how silly this will all seem a year from now. However, whatever they're feeling is very real to them."
The following phrases, whether in response to a simple ask or to a problem your child — boy or girl — is facing, deny the validity or reality of their feelings and make it seem that you don't care about their needs:
- Because I said so.
- Get over it.
- Stop asking me questions.
- Leave me alone.
- I told you this would happen.
- Just let me do it.
- You make me so mad!
- Go to your room.
- You're driving me crazy!
- Just give me a minute!