Separated From Your Ex? 20 Ways to Get Through Your First Festive Season Without the Kids

Mum friends, dad friends, old friends, new friends. Pick up the phone and let them know you've got some free time — there's nothing like a good friend to make you feel less lonely.

Kids are smart. Period. If they're old enough (or mature enough) to understand that you and your partner are no longer together, sit them down and explain that to them. Let them know that they won't be spending the holidays with you this year ahead of time, instead of waiting until the last minute.

Use the new-found time away from your kids to start a hobby you've been dying to get into, whether it's a new soul cycle class or becoming a full-fledged book worm.

Talking poorly about your former spouse in front of your kids makes them feel as though they need to take sides or that they need to resent the other parent. Vent to your close family and friends instead when your kids aren't around.

Yes, you're missing your kids like crazy. But it's more than OK to enjoy the time apart. Enjoy the fact that you don't need to travel with kids this year, you don't need to see your old in-law's — the list goes on and on.

If you're used to having your children on Christmas morning and they'll be with your ex this year instead, take the opportunity to make a new family tradition, like eating breakfast for dinner or hosting a holiday-themed game night.

Take that yoga class. Treat yourself to some online shopping. Have a spa day. If you're lacking self love this holiday season, showing yourself a little TLC could help.

Coming to terms with the fact that your children are going to be spending a majority of their time with your ex this festive season can be tough. Take a deep breath, calm yourself down, and acknowledge the fact that kids deserve to spend time with both parents.

You love your kids, but there's no doubt that it's easier to get errands done as a solo act.

Single parent chat rooms, online communities, and support groups can be super healthy outlets for parents dealing with their first festive season sans kids.

Whether it's court-mandated or discussed between the two of you, create a concrete plan for which parent handles each holiday with the kids. Write down and keep track of dates, times, and locations, so that the process of dropping off and picking up is as painless as possible.

It might technically only be Christmas once a year, but who says you can't celebrate it a few days late? Feel free to re-create special moments when you get your kids again — they definitely won't mind celebrating twice.

If your former partner is supposed to get the kids at 6 p.m. sharp on Christmas Eve, try your absolute best to make that happen. Respecting everyone's time is key, especially when dealing with parents who are already worried about not getting enough of it with their children.

Take family members up on their offers to join them in celebrating. Go to your mum's house for a Christmas morning breakfast or crash your sister's holiday party — it'll force you to be a little less down in the dumps.

It might be really hard for you emotionally, but your kids are looking up to you. It's OK to be upset that you won't see them, but save a little face and let them know it's still going to be a happy, fun-filled festive season.

The festive blues are real, and having to share your kids with your ex probably won't help. If you're feeling really depressed or experiencing severe anxiety, try scheduling a therapy appointment to talk to a professional about how you can cope.

Your ex might let them eat candy for breakfast or let them play video games until 1 a.m. Remember that it's your ex's time with them, so some of your parenting rules might go out the window. Unless it's a safety issue, try to bite your tongue.

Let your children know that you and your ex are here to talk to them about whatever feelings they have about the situation, and that you're both going to work together to make it as good as possible for them.