"Tummy Hunger" vs. "Mouth Hunger"

"Intuitive eating is often misunderstood as "eat whatever you want, when you want." As a parent, this interpretation of intuitive eating would sound like a terrible idea! Intuitive eating isn't about eating any and all food, rather it is about allowing our body to be the interpreter of what feels good and trusting our body to manage the imperfections in your eating patterns," Brown told POPSUGAR. Giving kids non-judgmental language around their body's experience of food is key in helping them develop a positive relationship with their body and with eating.

To help kids understand those eating patterns parents and caregivers can use the phrases "mouth hunger" and "tummy hunger" to help kids explore the different ways in which our bodies experience food without using external cues and negative messageing. Discussing "mouth hunger," the sensation of craving something based on taste and sensation alone, versus "tummy hunger," eating something based on a deep sense of feeling satiated and satisfied, can help children start to tune in to their internal experience of food. Asking kids to explore what their mouth is hungry for allows them to recognise that a part of their body is enjoying something about the food. Mouth hunger is about the immediately satisfying experience of eating and all the sensations that go along with it: crunchy, chewy, sweet — the mouth likes it all! In fact, it can even help to explain to kids that "mouth hunger" is a little bossy and sometimes it doesn't listen to "tummy hunger."

Engageing kids in a discussion of which foods satisfy their "tummy hunger" can help empower kids to talk about foods which help build muscles, promote growth, and deeply satisfy them. "Tummy hunger" is recognising which foods make your body feel uniquely healthy [7] and satiated. It's not only powerful to help kids recognise what their "tummy hunger" actually wants and needs, but it's also a great place to talk about diversity and differences in bodies. For example, some bodies feel great eating a lot of wheat. Other bodies don't. Each body is different, each tummy is different, it's your child's job to learn about what their "tummy hunger" craves and respect that information.

"Best Self Foods"

Brown is the first to tell you that restricting or labelling a food as "forbidden" increases the likelihood that you'll binge on it. This is true for adults, but especially kids. Using the phrase "best self foods" instead of "good or bad food" allows families to explore how healthy foods can enhance life and longevity, without promoting many of the classist and sexist ways in which food myths permeate our culture.

Avoiding labelling a food as bad, or even as "junk food" can help parents and caregivers discuss wise food choices in a way that empowers kids. In this scenario, junk food isn't a negative thing that we need to be rid of. (Thank goodness!) It's simply something that is fun, but doesn't necessarily promote our best self. Describing foods as "best self foods" also takes the perfectionism out of food. We don't have to always be eating kale and owning up to our best — it's okay to occasionally opt out of our absolute best and be more relaxed. However, it's important to recognise that as great as those moments feel, they will not help us become our best self. Using this phrase puts treats in their place, without using the negative cultural connotations that can come up. Most importantly. it gives children permission to fully enjoy treats when the opportunity presents itself, and promotes positive language around healthy food, forming a long lasting sense of empowerment in kids.

"That's not for me today"

One of the trickiest things that intuitive eating promotes is the ability for kids to say what they are willing to eat and what they aren't [8]. Giving kids the freedom to decide what they want to eat and what they don't at the dinner table promotes a feeling of trust between parents and kids at mealtimes. However, it can be difficult for parents who grew up having to clear their plates or take three bites to allow their kids to opt out of trying a new food. But ultimately, even requiring a "no thank you bite" can make it increasingly difficult to talk about food without judgement.

Consider having a rule at your table instead that kids are allowed to not eat something, but they are also not allowed to claim they don't like something (or do like something) until they try it. When your kid (or you) doesn't feel like eating something on their plate, they can reach for the phrase, "It's not for me today." This rule puts your child in charge of what they eat, but also eliminates the "ewwwww yuck!" comments which can ruin dinnertime for the grownups at the table. In the end, allowing kids to say "that's not for me today," which is different than "I don't like this," gives them the power to potentially try the food in the future. It's not a hard no, which allows kids the space to explore their changing and dynamic relationship with food. You can respond to an "it's not for me" comment with, "Maybe next time you will like it," allowing for your child's tastes to grow as they do. Giving your kid authority over their experiences creates positive body image, but also leaves the door open for the food to be enjoyed in the future.

Using these three phrases as a jumping off point for exploring your child's relationship with intuitive eating takes away judgement, promotes self-exploration, and allows kids to recognise the power of their own bodies. Perhaps the most empowering and enjoyable part of teaching intuitive eating is that it recognises and embraces imperfections. Reaching for these statements may feel challenging, especially if you didn't grow up in a home that promoted positive food relationships. But the good news is that embracing intuitive eating means embracing imperfections — giving you time to grow, too.