How to Talk to Your Child About Their First Period

How to Prepare For Your Child's First Period

I started to notice Sadie's body begin to change around age nine — she had small breast buds and could no longer just wear a t-shirt. I also noticed a few pimples on her face, discharge on her undies when I did the laundry, and she had pubic hair by the time she was turning 10. She's old for her grade, so none of her classmates were going through these changes. I talked to her doctor about it, and he said that within one year of noticing pubic hair, you can expect her period.

She was looking forward to this special day so much that the night before she turned 10 she said, "Wouldn't it be great if I got my period for my birthday?!" I knew she was excited to experience all we had talked about, but deep down I was thinking, "F*ck no! You're still my baby, and having your period actually sucks!" I also thought back to the time when she was five months old, and had to stay in the hospital for almost a month because she was having seizures that made her stop breathing. She made a full recovery, and here she was, almost 10 and talking about getting her period! I just smiled and said, "I'm sure you have another year to go."

Well, without me knowing, she was preparing! In her room one day, I noticed this little box she made where she collected some of the things I got for her. She had a few pads, period undies, a couple tampons (even though I told her she wouldn't use those for a while), and a little gold necklace that's actually a tampon holder. She was ready!

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My Daughter Got Her Period at Age 10

I'm so glad I talked to Sadie about her period at such a young age, because one morning a few months after her 10th birthday, she called me from the bathroom to show me her undies. There was a dark red spot, and we just looked at each other and I said, "Do you know what this means? You got your first period!!" I just hugged her and she was beaming with excitement! It was such a special moment that I'll never forget.

Then my eight-year-old son, who happened to be brushing his teeth in the bathroom, yelled to my husband, "Sadie got her period!" I walked out of the bathroom, and my husband just looked shocked and we both teared up. We instantly had a flashback to when she was sick in the hospital. Back then we didn't even know if she'd be able to talk or walk, and here she was, totally healthy, getting her period, and growing up perfectly. It was an emotional moment.

I was in shock, too, because honestly, I wasn't expecting this until she was at least 12 (I was 13 when I got my first period). But I knew from talking to fellow moms that many kids get their periods early, and acting happy and excited was key to making her first period a positive experience.

I was so glad it happened right before leaving for school so she wasn't alone — if it had happened just an hour later when she was at school, without any pads or clean undies, and no one to talk to, it probably would have been scary instead of exciting. I gave her the choice to stay home, but she was so jazzed up and feeling proud, she wanted to go to school. I showed her how to put on a pad, packed a few pads in her backpack, and she was off.

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How to Celebrate Your Child's First Period

I was emotional the whole day and couldn't wait until she got home to see how her day was. My husband bought her flowers, gave her the biggest hug, and said he was so happy for her. I took her to the store to buy her a little present (she picked out some yarn because she just learned to knit), and our neighbours made her a "welcome to womanhood" card and gave her a handmade bracelet. A friend at Thinx also sent her a cute little first period kit.

My dad's reaction was actually my favourite because I don't remember him saying one word to me when I got my period, but it was his idea to send Sadie flowers and a sweet note.

After baking a celebratory cake, she wanted to call Mike's family to share her exciting news — it was her idea, and our family is so open, I knew they'd be excited for her. She didn't feel quite comfortable telling everyone herself and wanted me to say the words, but she loved seeing everyone's reactions — they were so happy and supportive of her.

It was so awesome to see everyone making this such an awesome, positive experience. One relative did make a comment like, "Oh that's really young," and I didn't want Sadie to feel self-conscious or upset at all, so I quickly commented, "yeah some girls get it as early as nine, so Sadie was just lucky!" She couldn't stop smiling, and I just felt so proud that I nailed this part of parenting!

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How to Make Your Child's Period Awesome

After all the flowers and exciting phone calls, the reality of what it meant that Sadie got her period so early set in. She was lucky that it happened so calmly and neatly at home, but that's not always the case — periods can get messy! I knew the best thing we could do was to be prepared.

I made Sadie a little period pouch to keep in her school backpack that had a pair of period undies and a few different sized pads. I also packed an extra pair of undies and leggings, just in case she leaked at school. I put a pad in the inside pocket of her winter coat, and bought her a calendar so she could chart her cycle. I also have an app on my phone to track her period, just so I know what day to start expecting it.

A few friends shared that their daughters' periods were very irregular in the beginning (one got her period at age nine and then didn't get it again until 16), so I talked to Sadie about it, just so she wasn't worried if it came early or late. We also talked about the adults she can go to at school, like her fourth grade teacher (who I shared the news with), her school counselor, and the nurse.

I know talking about periods isn't the most comfortable thing in the world, but think back to what your first period was like. Was it memorable because it was so terrifying? Or was it a good experience because you were prepared and knew what was happening? I know that talking so openly about her period is what helped Sadie and I not freak out when it actually happened.

I knew girls could get their periods as early as nine, but I honestly thought Sadie wouldn't get hers until she was 13, like I was. Never in a million years did I think she'd get hers in fourth grade! So take this as a little nudge to start the conversation today, so your child can be just as prepared and excited as Sadie was. It's in your hands whether this is an awful experience or an awesome one!

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