"Growing up I remember if I was told that my outfit was really flattering I would feel intensely happy. Unpacking that now I can see that what I would hear in that word is 'you look smaller than what you are' meaning 'you will be loved and accepted because the smaller you is the better.' What a shitty thought for a young person to have in their minds. It blows my mind that this word is still used confidently in the body positive community today. Fuck Flattering - your body does not need to be altered."