That also speaks to the danger, Gaylor said, of binary thinking — that things have to be black and white, this way or that way — when we're talking about mental health. We saw this come up a few times in the interview, like when Markle reminded viewers that they didn't have to criticize Kate Middleton in order to support Markle, or vice versa. Gaylor agreed: "It's not either/or." It can be both: "She is a good person and I am a good person . . . It doesn't have to be 'or.' We can embrace the 'and.'"
That goes, too, to people who doubted the veracity of Markle's suicidal thoughts or traumatic time with the royal family, simply because she seemed to have it all: money, fame, success, a loving marriage. That's a damageing precedent to set; you never know what people are going through based on how it looks on the outside. It's also another example of all or nothing thinking. "She has money, she has resources, she has to be happy," Gaylor said. "That's either/or, and we have to be able to be comfortable with the 'and.'" You can have all of that and be struggling.