"When people tell funny stories about what you were like when you were younger or make you feel inferior in some way . . . it's likely that what your younger self needs [in that moment] is protecting and defending," Dr. Trent explained. "You could say something like, 'Actually, when I hear you say that, it really hurts my feelings. What I needed most [then] was care, protection, and compassion.'" Don't be afraid to set boundaries and communicate your needs, if it will help you move on.