Once I realised the magnitude of what I'd gotten myself into, I decided to set an intention to keep myself accountable. I wasn't going to start swiping right just to make my number, so I resolved to approach each dating prospect with integrity. To me, that meant saying yes only when I was genuinely interested in someone and keeping my typical dating behaviour patterns intact. I wasn't going to start initiating conversations or asking guys out. I still had to let them come to me, and still be myself through the process. It worked, it still got me to my goal, and I confirmed something I already knew — you don't have to be aggressive to get a guy (or 30) to ask you out, you just have to be very active on the dating apps.