If you have started potty training and your child is having a ton of accidents, tears, and overall just not getting it, there is no shame in setting it aside. You don't want to make your kid hate the potty or develop stress and anxiety from it. According to community member 3timesaround, it's best to just hold off. "Wait until they are really, really ready," she says. "Wait until they are rejecting diapers. If you start and it's just not clicking, it's okay to stop and try again later." To which I say, where the heck were you four years ago, 3timesaround? Because I could have used this advice when potty training my third. She took twelve months of tears (mine) and finally a $100 Build-a-Bear excursion. (If you've ever wondered who buys all those accessories, it's moms of kids who finally potty train after a full year.)