Anyone who has a child with autism (or any child, for that matter) knows that structure helps. A lot. My husband and I often plan out our day ahead of time. That way our sons know what to expect and we can get our personal stuff done before the major activities begin. It's nice to not have to shove what we each want to do out of the way to please our sons (or each other), and the boys get to enjoy some time doing what they like. Everybody wins!