In the UK, the first scan for most mums-to-be is at 12 weeks, and even though most people don't find out they're pregnant until they're about five or six weeks gone, the weeks leading up to that scan go by painfully slowly. It's the first time you see your baby and hear the heartbeat, and for many parents, it's when the whole thing becomes "real". I found myself falling into a spiral of statistics and risk factors as we inched towards week 12. I got massively impatient, and there were definitely moments when I wished I'd splashed out for a private "reassurance" scan at an earlier date, just to ease the panic.
Stress isn't great for baby, so if you are anxious or concerned and you are lucky enough to have the means to pay for an early scan, by all means go for it. Don't feel guilty, or like you're being frivolous or impatient. When it comes to things worth spending money on, I reckon your baby and your mental health should be high on the list. However, do bear in mind that many of the places that offer these early scans do not give medical advice: you're seeing an ultrasound technician, not a doctor or midwife. I didn't have a reassurance scan, but I did have a private gender scan, and though the staff were great, the place was definitely set up more like a baby gift shop than a medical establishment. If your scan doesn't go according to plan, you could find yourself in a pretty horrible situation.