When I first had kids, I put myself last. As they exited the baby phase, I noticed my ranking rise back up again, but putting myself at the tip-top of the list was still a rarity. And although I know I won't be able to put my needs above all others every time, I'm certainly going to try to do so regularly and without a hint of guilt that I'm being selfish. In fact, I'm hopeful that once a week, I'll choose me over my family, whether that's getting drinks with friends over dinner at home, going to the gym instead of a six-year-old birthday party, or running errands and then stopping to get a glass of wine and scroll through my Instagram feed instead of rushing back to the grind.