Being someone's bridesmaid — or God forbid, the maid of honour — is a hell of a lot of work, and even more money. They sometimes have to cover the cost of a plane ticket, chip in on the bridal shower, and splurge on a dress, jewellery, and shoes of your choosing. So while you might have a firm opinion on whether or not they wear their hair down or all wear flower crowns for consistency's sake, the least we can do as brides is let them decide whether or not they want to put on eyeliner — particularly if you were planning on having them foot the bill.