Don't presume you know how your friend feels about this issue. "Everyone is in their own process of dealing with the situation," Lee explained. He also noted that many in the AAPI community may not be very comfortable talking about themselves. "Many are used to 'putting your head down,' 'not drawing attention,' and 'working through it,'" he said. "We need to recognise that everyone is figuring things out at their own pace and in their own place."
Relatedly, Lee cautioned against generalizations. "There are billions and billions of Asians with many different, distinct cultures," he said. Don't generalize across cultures or individuals, because everyone will have their own experience. When you want to show love and support, he recommended simply meeting your friend where they're at, and going from there together.