We've all said something we don't mean out of anger, and it's not only hurtful, but also unproductive. Atluri recommends that you tap into how you're feeling when hashing something out with a partner, friend, or family member. "Use 'I feel' statements to label your emotions rather than taking them on as characteristics or thoughts," she said. "Staying mindful should help you come to a resolution in less time and with fewer hurt feelings."