People should always be educating themselves on sexuality as it relates to chronic illness and disability, but how exactly can we do that? Hart advises nondisabled individuals to "read the narratives of disabled folks! Follow us on Instagram, and do not listen to able-bodied folks when it comes to our bodies." She also gave POPSUGAR a list of things people should stop assuming about disabled bodies:
That we don't desire sex or intimacy. We do and we deserve it!
That we are delicate dolls. If we want rough sex/play, we will make that clear, so respect that desire.
Don't infantilize us. We know what works for our bodies; we are not children.
This is the case for all sexual relationships, but let's talk about what feels good and doesn't for our bodies before we have sex.
Making a list breaking down specific needs and desires is fun! Don't kill the mood. Ex: a list of Yes/No/Maybe.
Consent, consent, consent! Disabled folks make up some of the highest rates for sexual violence. No interaction should be done without consent.