The strength of my marriage has always been communication, but we let life get in the way. Work schedules and the stresses and demands of children caused a disconnect that I didn't even notice until it got too big to ignore. Make an effort to talk about what's going on in your minds and lives (not just the children's events or milestones), even when it's not convenient or flattering. Your spouse is supposed to be there to support you, and it's hard to do so if you don't communicate what you need, both in general and from them specifically. In addition, be willing to really listen and take in what your partner is telling you they need.