Popsugar Love & Sex Advice Relationship Red Flags 31 Things That Are Huge Red Flags in Your Relationship 29 September 2018 by Nicole Yi Image Source: Unsplash / Allan Filipe Santos Dias Rather than waiting for your relationship to detonate, identify and resolve any pain points you're experiencing now. It's usually not until post-breakup when all the red flags that have accumulated over the years become flashing red lights. So, do yourself (and your partner) a favour by tackling those issues ASAP. Some of them may not be so obvious, while others are probably blaring signals that you're not going to make it. See 31 signs you shouldn't ignore, ahead. Related: The Most Common Mistake Couples Make, According to a Relationship Coach 1 Insecurity is an issue. Image Source: Unsplash / Becca Tapert 1 / 31 2 You feel pressured to look, act, or be a certain way. Image Source: Derek Chad Photography 2 / 31 3 They check your texts. Image Source: Unsplash / Clem Onojeghuo 3 / 31 4 It's difficult to open up to each other. Image Source: Unsplash / Cody Black 4 / 31 5 One partner has more power in the relationship than the other. Image Source: Unsplash / Dc Lovensky 5 / 31 6 You don't agree on the future (marriage, kids, etc.). Image Source: Unsplash / Edward Cisneros 6 / 31 7 The idea of being with someone else interests you. Image Source: Unsplash / frank cordoba 7 / 31 8 Jealousy often causes problems between the two of you. Image Source: Kesha Lambert Photography 8 / 31 9 You can't get past certain grudges. Image Source: Unsplash / Allan Filipe Santos Dias 9 / 31 10 Your sex life has dramatically changed — and there's not much interest to do anything about it. Image Source: Unsplash / Hannah Busing 10 / 31 11 You argue about the same problems again and again. Image Source: Amy J Short Photography 11 / 31 12 One partner's dreams are more important than the other's. Image Source: Unsplash / IB Wira Dyatmika 12 / 31 13 An ex is still in the picture. Image Source: TONL 13 / 31 14 You find yourselves having nothing to say to each other. Image Source: Unsplash / Jacob Ufkes 14 / 31 15 One of you is too dependent on the other. Image Source: Unsplash / JD Mason 15 / 31 16 You'd rather stay out with your friends than see your SO. Image Source: Unsplash / Kelsey Knight 16 / 31 17 You keep secrets from each other. Image Source: Kathryn Hyslop Photography 17 / 31 18 It's difficult to work through any issues together and you rarely come to a resolution. Image Source: Unsplash / Kyle Bearden 18 / 31 19 You can't fully be yourself around them. Image Source: Swak Photography 19 / 31 20 You fight often — even about things that aren't worth arguing over. Image Source: Molly Carr Fine Art Photography 20 / 31 21 You don't fight enough and internalise your feelings until they can't be ignored. Image Source: Melissa Biador Photography 21 / 31 22 You're not on the same page when it comes to your relationship. Image Source: StockSnap / William Stitt 22 / 31 23 You don't trust one another. Image Source: Kathryn Hyslop Photography 23 / 31 24 Close friends and family members don't like your SO. Image Source: Unsplash / Sweet Ice Cream Photography 24 / 31 25 You put each other down. Image Source: Unsplash / Allef Vinicius 25 / 31 26 They're too stubborn to admit when they're wrong. Image Source: Unsplash / Tanja Heffner 26 / 31 27 Your partner is controlling. Image Source: TONL 27 / 31 28 You've considered ending the relationship on several occasions. Image Source: Unsplash / Believe in Your utopia 28 / 31 29 You're at significantly different places in your lives. Image Source: Libby Neder Photography 29 / 31 30 Your partner is abusive in any way. Image Source: Pixabay / bdcbethebest 30 / 31 31 You're unhappy. Image Source: Unsplash / Ariel Lustre 31 / 31 AdviceDatingRelationships