Queerplatonic Relationships Explained on TikTok
Have you ever thought to yourself, "Do I like this person in a friendly way, or do I like them in a romantic relationship way?" If you can't figure out exactly how you feel about one of your friends, you might be in (or want to be in) a queerplatonic relationship. Also known as a quasiplatonic relationship, quirkyplatonic relationship, or qplatonic relationship (abbreviated QPR), this kind of relationship goes further than a platonic relationship, but it's not necessarily romantic. This is the aspect that causes the most confusion when people first hear about this kind of connection, because usually, the word platonic refers to a friendship that has trust, loyalty, and love but none of the sexual aspects. On the other hand, queerplatonic relationships bend the rules of traditional heteronormative relationships because they encompass more than than just friendship or romance — they're rooted in deep intimacy and emotional closeness that you find in a romantic relationship.
TikTok user Devoune aka @acidonwednesdays summed up QPR as "any relationship that transcends the idea of what a platonic relationship would be, but it's not quite romantic." (They also self-identified as aromantic, which is someone who doesn't experience romantic attraction.) In society, there are typically hard lines between friendship and romance, but in QPR, there are no lines on either side, meaning they're much more fluid and flexible. People in these kinds of relationships share a connection that's deep and loving and not always sexual (but can be!), which is why some people in QPR share their lives together just like people in romantic relationships do, but they are not expected to have sexual entanglements.
Jay Guercio, known on TikTok as @thelovelyjaybird, is platonically married to her best friend, which is just one example of how queerplatonic relationships can look a lot of different ways. Jay and Krystle wanted to raise a family together, so they got married, adopted a kid, and moved in together. In an interview with the New York Post, Jay explained, "I don't feel that gushy, 'I'm in love with you, I want to constantly be near you' kind of romantic love. I feel the love that [one] typically feels for their best friends, times 100." If you're still curious about what queerplatonic relationships are all about, we've pulled together a few TikTok videos you can watch to learn more!