Journalist and podcast host Paula Faris recently opened up about how she told her 12-year-old daughter, Caroline Grace, about having a miscarriage. While speaking on The View — a show she was a cohost of from 2015–2018 — the mom of three shared why she wanted to normalize the concept of miscarriage with her oldest child, her only daughter.
"I'm 44. I've always wanted four kids, maybe because I am the youngest of four. But that was my third miscarriage," she told Meghan McCain, who has also experienced a miscarriage. Paula said that she opted to share her third miscarriage, which happened while her family was on holiday, with Caroline Grace to explain to her that it's not an uncommon thing for women to go through.
"I brought my daughter into the restroom with me," she explained. "I showed her what was going on and I said, 'I just want to let you know, Mommy is . . . the baby is probably no longer viable. Mommy doesn't feel any guilt. This is normal, it happens to so many women, it's happened to me a couple of other times," she said. "When you get pregnant, it might happen to you, honey. And I want you to know there's nothing you did wrong.'"
Although Paula knows that women should take the time they need to overcome their loss, having the conversation with her daughter in the moment felt significant to her. "It's important to grieve, but it's also important to know that this happens to so many of us. She's 12." She added, jokingly: "She's the perfect child, by the way. And then I have my boys, who are savages. God has a sense of humour."