Dote too much on the grandkid's physical appearance: Your granddaughter might be the most beautiful little girl in your world, but focusing too much on her looks can be harmful in the long run. Try complimenting her problem-solving abilities or another interesting skill instead of her "pretty face."
Question Mom and Dad in front of the kids: Even if a grandparent disagrees with their child's decisions, discussing it in front of the grandkids is not the way to handle the issue. Like they say, "monkey see, monkey do."
Demand holiday visits: Deciding where to spend the holidays is stressful enough without pressure from the grandparents, so don't heap more anxiety onto your kids.
Demean the grandchild's authority figures: While it's a possibility that a teacher graded your grandchild poorly because he or she plays favourites, the odds are that they were simply doing their job. Insulting babysitters, teachers, and coaches to your grandkids will encourage them to do the same.
Use gender-restricting language toward the grandchildren: Telling a grandchild that she runs fast "for a girl" or dances well "for a boy" does a great deal of harm to their self-confidence and future aspirations. Never set gendered limits on a growing child!
Use the grandkids for labor: Expecting the little ones to wash your car or mow the lawn every time they visit might make them feel used; simply accept help when it's offered, or be sure to say "please" with a big hug!