Life Lessons from Dear Dolly by Dolly Alderton
8 Life Lessons I Picked Up From Dolly Alderton's New Book, "Dear Dolly"
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If you've just got out of a relationship, whether that be something long term or a shorter situationship, there can be circumstances where staying friends with your ex seems like a good, even mature, choice. But really, is it ever a good idea? Whether it hinders you being able to move on or raises awkward questions from a future partner, what does it really serve you?
While it may seem incredibly adult to be friends with an ex, "the fact is: he wasn't your best friend for the past seven years, he was your boyfriend. So once you strip him of that job title and its requirements, once you are no longer the person he wakes up and goes to sleep with, your relationship is going to be less intense. It has to be," Alderton confirms. "And you will be the most important person in someone's life again - you'll be each other's ally, teammate and other half. But you're not going to be able to experience or commit to it if your ex is still the most important person in your life."