A few hours after my kids were born – once my adrenaline rush subsided and things that needed to be stitched up were, in fact, stitched up – I took a deep breath, handed the sleeping newborn over to my husband, and got my phone out. I didn't think anything of it . . . who else was going to announce this baby to the world if I didn't post the sweet pic to Instagram? How else was I going to respond to the 20-odd text messages from friends and family eagerly awaiting the story of how my new addition entered the world? When else was I going to read about the new funny thing some celebrity tweeted?
Much like me in that first day post-birth, mom blogger Constance Hall grabbed her iPhone in one hand and a soft drink in the other.
She even posted a photo of it – she was taken with the oh-so-modern snap of her enjoying a moment of "me time" while her husband swaddled their newborn. On Facebook, she captioned the photo: "Possibly my favourite photo from the birth of Raja . . . welcome to the matriarchy! Queen just had a baby, yo."
Unfortunately, though, mommy shamers were quick to pounce on the new mom of five.
"It's nobody's business what a mother is doing on her phone the day she gives birth, if she's sending her children and mother photos of the baby or googling tit jobs in Thailand."
Many judged her drink of choice, but most called her out for not being more present with her just-born baby. One commented sarcastically, "it's important to check your phone right now." Another wrote, "she's obviously googling parental advice."
Although most of the negative comments were deleted, her legion of fans stepped in, sharing not only that she earned that hard-fought soda but that there was likely a very good reason she was on her phone.
"It's 2018, and everything's done through them these days – she runs a business and has a family to look after," one said. And
After discovering the "stuck-up judgments" people were posting about "what I was doing on my phone instead of spending my every second doting and being the eternally grateful goddess mother," Constance took to Facebook once again to defend her choices.
"It's nobody's business what a mother is doing on her phone the day she gives birth, if she's sending her children and mother photos of the baby or googling tit jobs in Thailand," she wrote.
Yes, even if she took a few minutes to text with pals, catch up on some celebrity gossip, or play a mindless game of Words With Friends, it's OK. She left her haters with a bit of advice. Aside from a child being abused, "the way another mother is mothering . . . ain't your fucking problem."