Besides the likelihood that this threat is empty, negative reinforcement only validates the action since it gives the child the attention they want. Leading with positive reinforcement, and validating their good behaviour instead, will get better results. "With a consequence, your child doesn't learn to listen," Dr. Lapointe pointed out. "Their impulse control centre is not developed enough for that. Of course, they'll continue with what really appeals to them. Instead, they learn that they're punished for being who they are. In my book, Discipline Without Damage, I talk about how consequences break the connection, and further, that connection is essential to healthy growth and development."