"I'm tired of being the only one disciplining our kids!"
The Fight: Long-standing fights about children are all but guaranteed for parents, Schwartz notes. "Couples don't always agree about what the right thing is to do when a kid gets out of line, is in trouble, or needs help. Those are big issues that if they haven't figured out a combined approach, they just happen again and again throughout the life cycle."
The Fix: "Use third-party help," Schwartz says. Although she is a firm believer in couples counseling, in the case of parenting disputes, she recommends a different type of counselor. "A great option people don't take enough is going to a specialist who can offer information about how to parent and has advice for you on child-raising, where you can both present your cases, and the professional can say, 'Here's what we consider best practices, and it's neither one of these, and you could try that."