Kids are known for asking uncomfortable questions at inappropriate times. "You know, the ones they ask when you are out in public and hope no one heard," Principal Killins says. But instead of silencing your child, Principal Killins suggests letting these kinds of questions drive a conversation about the stereotypes and practices that have led to the systemic oppression of BIPOC.
Neuhaus and Dr. O'Connor add that parents should be prepared to address these sorts of awkward comments instead of trying to get them to stop. "Shushing a child teaches them that race is taboo or even that people who look a certain way make their parent nervous," they say. Even if you're not prepared to respond right away, try bringing your child's question or comment up afterwards when the timing is better.