In this unhealthy relationship style, the primary caregiver does not engage often with their child and can be emotionally distant, leading the child to internalize that their needs will most likely not be met. Children who have an avoidant pattern of connection with their parent have learned that their parent is not able to comfort them. Thus, the child will often avoid their parent (as self-preservation from rejection), self-soothe, and/or seem unusually independent compared to their peers. As a parent, if you're not happy with this type of bond with your little one, it's important to work on being consistent, caring, and engaged with your child, especially when they are in distress or hurt so they can internalize your presence as safe.