Remaining on the date longer than necessary or entertaining someone's texts when you know they're not the one is misleading, and you, a modern dater in 2019, don't have time to waste other people's time, and they'll be dammed if they try to waste yours. "If he's not texting you (ghosting) or texting you just enough to keep you interested but not asking you out (breadcrumbing), it's simple enough," says Patti. "He's just not that into you, and it's your job to get the hell over it."