Patti elaborates, "Women will hear from a guy once and then weeks go by without a second message. When he finally texts again, it's like, 'Where have you been?'" This is called "submarining" in modern dating speak, and it's totally unacceptable. The mistake many of us make is thinking we did something wrong and trying to fix it. "You did nothing wrong!" says Patti. "You're just not a match, and it's time to move on. If he submarined you once, he'll probably do it again. You don't want that anyway."