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Flirting Wrong

A good way to find out if someone likes you is to adopt the Patti Stanger signature five-second flirt. It works like this: Let's say I'm at a bar and I see a cute guy. The first thing I need to remember is that I can get the guy. I have everything I need to be attractive to him; all I have to do is signal that I'm open to talking to him, and he'll come right over. So what do I do? I look in his direction, smile, and hold his gaze for five seconds. It seems like a lot, but it's a nonverbal signal that I'm interested, and it puts this man in the driver's seat. They love that seat. If it works, he'll cross the room and ask if he can buy me a drink. If it doesn't work, it's because I'm either not his type or he's taken, gay, or the passive-aggressive type who wants me to come to him. I don't like that type, so I move on.