To reinforce good behaviour, Dr. Grodberg encourages caregivers to create a trifecta of praise that incorporates three actions: Show enthusiasm, be specific about what you are praising, and add a non-verbal component like a high five or a hug. "Becoming an expert at using praise gives caregivers a powerful tool they can use to start focusing on their child's positive behaviours and reinforce them so they don't go away," Dr. Grodberg said.
As children get older, it is important to adapt your praise to meet a child's developmental needs and increased autonomy. For example, the enthusiasm may tone down slightly and the non-verbal component may evolve into subtle facial expressions. Being specific about what you are praising, however, never gets old.