My relationship with my appearance and self-esteem has been one which has evolved significantly over the years. But even now there are still days when I wish I was a bit slimmer, or had flawless skin, or hair that doesn't frizz the moment that I step outside. From obsessing over what I saw in the mirror in my early teens, to learning to embrace myself and the way in which my body will inevitably change over the years is a journey, one that many of us can relate to. But Alderton brilliantly switches the narrative from focussing on what we see on the outside to celebrating the actions, no matter how small they might be, that make up our character.
These include, "being helpful to strangers when no one is there to see. Leaving relationships when they no longer make you happy. Campaigning for a cause you care about. Being able to laugh at yourself. Developing a work ethic that you can be proud of. Keeping yourself safe and healthy. Ambition. Curiosity. Knowing what you like in sex. Knowing how to change a light bulb, fuse or tyre. Saving spiders instead of swatting them. Any of these things will help. These very small, very unexciting steps are what build a sense of integrity and self-respect. They help make the mirror reflection feel a little less important. And the best part is, character is far more robust than appearance," says Dolly.
Just this week I personally released a spider back out into the world instead of shrieking and jabbing it with a piece of kitchen roll. Baby steps. Instead of focusing on what I am not, I am now going to focus more on what I am and what I have achieved each day.